Episode 53: Unedited
Jun 16, 2022

We can make big impacts by paying attention to the small things, asking for help, giving help, where we can open your eyes, put down your phone, reach out to those people that you think are strong and make a difference.

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Hello. Hello. Hello, and welcome to another episode of the 1% code podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Melva Pinn-Bingham. I am a board certified radiation oncologist, serial entrepreneur, an investor franchise owner, and physician coach. I. Top 1% earners and physicians who are struggling to create additional income streams, navigate entrepreneurship through the 1% accelerator program.

And today I'm excited to share with you a new episode and this one's going to be a little bit different. I'm not going to send it to my podcast editing team. So bear with me, it's all me today. And the title is. Unedited. All right. So I haven't free flowed in a while. So here we go. Unedited today's episode is dedicated to my physician entrepreneurs and those physicians who are struggling or who have struggled and to anyone who has been affected by anxiety.

Fear or has lost a loved one to suicide. And I'd like to take this moment and ask you to do the same. If you're a believer, I'd ask you to pray for those. Who've lost any loved ones to suicide. And recently we have learned of another position, young physician that we've lost a suicide, and we, we lose way too many lives to physicians, suicide and lives to suicide.

And I wanted to take this time to pause. For those lives that we've lost.

So with that, this episode is dedicated to a renewal, a renewal and unedited came to mind because. I wanna take this opportunity to just be free. Okay. We have this space, you have blessed me with the opportunity to be in your ear. And honestly, I used to come on social media and thewas a lot. And, you know, just, just speak from the heart, you know, with no editing, no, you know, glamor, no, nothing.

It was just raw, raw energy. So I wanted to share that with you today. And I, I hope that this. I hope this works out. Okay. So I don't know if I'm too close to my mic. There's gonna be some ums and you know, no music in the beginning or the end. So let's, let's get into this. Okay. First, I just want you to know that I am not a licensed professional in the mental health industry.

I'm not a licensed clinical social worker. I'm not a therapist. I'm not a psychiatrist. I am a board certified radiation oncologist. So what I am saying is from personal experience and. I do want to refer you to a licensed professional and below this post, we will post some resources. I also want to encourage you that if you need help, reach out and get help, find someone to talk to.

There are resources and we will share those at the end. And the other thing that I want to say is that. Reach out, talks to someone, get help their resources. If you need to reach out to me, I am happy to direct you to someone. If at any point you need help because it is real. It is a struggle. Okay. And we're gonna talk about that.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Okay. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And what I really want to get out there is. Your identity. Okay. And what you're going through right now, let's talk about that. As an entrepreneur, working on business ideas, right? There are going to be some failures out there.

So many things go wrong. We have to normalize failures, working as a physician, working in a job with stress, being a parent. I talk a lot about being a mom. You know, those dads out there, job changes. I just came back from Miami wonderful course about day trading and stocks and investments. And we're always talking about multiple streams of income.

We talked about recession. Okay. The recession is coming. We're going to have a lot more people that are under financial duress and distress. Again, suicide, anxiety, depression, fear. These are all going to come up. As we move into this recession, the last recession that happened, the speaker talked about this is not quoting me.

This is quoting the speaker. This was Terry EGE. Look her up at, um, you know, and invest with Terry wonderful day trader wonderful educator, MIT background recommend her with no hesitation. She's fabulous. I've learned so much from her as Terry T. I invest with Terry shut out to Terry, learn so much from her gonna put that work in.

Um, again with the recession will come a lot of these problems, which is why I feel that it's so important to talk about this right now. And she talked about it. Recession last time took 18 months to happen. Gotta get some water. Pray with me

again. We're not editing this. This is unedited. Okay. So 18 months it's going to take for a recession to happen. And she went over the five signs of a recession. Which I don't have my notes right with me. Um, but we'll talk about that. You know, like unemployment rate, what you see with the retail signs going down.

So those of you who are doing those multiple streams of income, we can go on this on another, on another round, but you're looking for those things when you're looking at the market, uh, things that we talk about, again, we talk about education, right? So you have to do that, but I want you to get ready. Okay.

This is why you have to talk about help, surround yourself with like-minded people. These things are important because. You should also be saving right now. All right. So all of these things, when we talk about our life, okay, where we're putting ourselves as top 1% income earners, thinking like the 1% that mental health goes right along with your financial wealth.

I hope you're following me right now. This is why I wanna be unedited, because I want you to think how I'm thinking, because these are realistic. These problems will come up in your life and we have to talk about them. More money, more problems, right? These are going to happen. These are temporary problems with temporary problems.

We get temporary solutions. We don't look for permanent solutions. We ask for help. What you're going through right now. I've been through other people have been through it. If I haven't been through it, or if you haven't been through it, somebody else has been through it. So what do we need to do? What is, what is our solution?

What are we missing out there? Right. We need innovators. We need people that have already been through what you're struggling through. And I think this is why we have to speak on this. Okay. This is why we have to speak on this. We need to take the stigma away and we need to share our stories. This is why.

Libraries, right. We have journalism and we have to categorize it. This is the part that just drives me. Absolutely nuts about social media. Can we real talk here? Can we real talk on the 1% code this week? I see. I, I don't have any live interaction, but that's okay. Story. Right. We talk about marketing. If you've listened to any of my other episodes before.

Story. It's all about story. What is your personal story? I'm a, I'm a pause right there. Cuz I may be going a little fast again. I I'm just, I'm a hype y'all okay. I'm alive. Right? Like I, God is the working on me. I I've been quiet and he's like, yo, Dr. Melva, Melva, I need you to speak. Your people need you.

Okay. Your physicians need you. Your physician entrepreneurs need you. Your young black physicians need you. These young people need you Melva speak, you know? And he's been like tapping on my shoulder. Patients have been tapping on my shoulder. I, I don't wanna sound too crazy, but like I was coming back in the airport.

It was about 12 o'clock. The flight was delayed and. I tell y'all I couldn't find the car cause I was Russian. Got there was doing PSA. Uh, not PSA. I'm sorry. You'all have a cancer doctor. So prostate specific antigen. I wasn't doing PSA. I wasn't like doing prostate checks in the exam room. My physician don't know what I'm talking about, but TSA pre-check in the airport.

Right. And. I got there like 10 minutes to go boarding and I flew American. They were boarding fast. It was like nine minutes after boarding and I'd already missed my group. But anyway, I digress. There's this little bunny rabbit. When I get back at like 12:00 AM I parked outside? I don't know why normally I'm in the garage, but anyway, I was doing way too much that day.

And there's this like little bunny rabbit hopping. So I'm pushing my car, trying to find it. I don't know why I even just get my husband to come pick me up at midnight when I came back. But whatever I was. I was hype. Right? So those things happened anyway, long story short, there's this like little bunny rabbit.

And I promised the little bunny rabbit, like hopped until I flash and there was my car. And then the little bunny rabbit, like hopped away. My kids are side eyeing me like early moms.

Going back to this unedited version story. Okay. So when we talk about marketing, you share your story and when you're selling a product, asking for the sale, that story has emotion. Okay. So we talk about the hero story in marketing, right? If you've ever listened to Russell Brunson, one of the greats. Dan Kennedy marketing.

Okay. Copywriting where my marketing, you know, heroes out there, click funnels is Russell Brunson. Those of you who haven't heard that, or you're new to the online marketing world or your seven, eight figure funnels. I hope y'all are following along. Cause again, this is unedited. So I'm just, I'm just, I'm just flowing right?

This, this is what you do when you bring in that money. Okay. This is what you do. When you think multiple strings of income, this is where you need to be. Right. Follow back up with me. Okay. Story stories are important because they have an emotional stark or emotional kind of like bling and you connect with that emotion.

So when we think about temporary problems, I'm, I'm circling back here, temporary problems. So recession. Depression struggles at work, you know, working with bosses, we have these non-physician run practices in hospitals, physician burnout, stress, divorce, unable to pay the bills. We're fast forward to the recession coming.

We go back to COVID in the pandemic long-term pain, um, you know, domestic abuse, domestic pain that physicians are going through infertility rates in, you know, older. Oh, God. Did I just call myself old? Ugh. I'm in my forties. I'm young 40, I'm sorry. Uh, uh, uterus. Okay. So like, you know, women that are having infertility, especially as physicians, we have worked and given our lives to medicine and now we want to be mothers and we're having difficulty that hurts.

That is pain. Am I speaking to anyone here that is painful? That hurts. We understand what that feels like. We hear you, we see you, okay. You are not alone, but you need to hear that story. You need to know that, right? You need to hear that. So we have to catalog and we have to share these stories. So who is putting this work together?

Well, it's hard for us to do it as physicians because we're working. We're seeing the patients, we're giving up the time that we had for ourselves and without self care, without a full cup. You can't overflow. So I'm gonna pause right there. And I want that to settle. I want that to settle for those of you who are not in medicine or for those of you who have your babies in medicine, right?

You, you may not have understood those struggles and it's hard to identify and detach the physician from the physician entrepreneur. And for me, that was my struggle for so long. I could not let go of that physician identity.

It's hard to edit and unedited. Cause you may hear that emotion in my voice, but I want you to hear that. I want you to hear that because my husband heard that last week and we had just got into that mark of the 15 year mark. And last Friday, the day after the 15 year mark is when I learned about another physician suicide, a young black.

Strong inside black, young, young, black female physician. And even though I did not know her personally, she is me and I cried. I cried.

You know, my husband asked me, he said, you know, maybe you can't do this thing because it just tears you up in ice inside. And I said, you know what? We made it 15 years. And I know that we're gonna make it 15 more because you're so wrong about this one. And, and he didn't say much, Alison. I said, it's not that I can't take this.

And he said, you know, you wanna talk about physician burnout? And I said, no, no, you're so wrong. I said, I'm not crying because of that. I said, I'm crying because enough of us have not cried. We've become mute to this. We've become mute to death. We've become mute to dying. We don't feel anymore. We, we, we see death and we see loss and we see hate and we don't react as an oncologist.

I have a strong wall and it's a gift that I am able to be in the room with patients on some of their hardest days. And I am strong, but then like, you know, a puppy or a, you know, a cute little dolphin or something and, and I'm gone, but yes, I'm strong. But the reason that I cried these tears are that my people and it, it doesn't matter race or age or ethnicity or culture.

Who I identify with as physicians and healthcare workers and women and moms are suffering are suffering right now. And, and these are who I identify with and we are suffering. Okay. And, and more than that, my tears are that I know that me let's take away the titles. That I was born into this position of influence as Melva Yvette Pinn is, is, is how I was born before title before marriage, before motherhood, as I was born to my parents, Evora and Melvan Pinn in Charlotte, North Carolina, in, in my purpose.

And an energy and influence and empower to make a huge difference and impact in this world in, in the ways that I have been. And in ways that I can't, and those tears were not a sign of weakness, they were a sign of movement. They were a sign of shift and a purpose. So do not ever mistake. Power and shift and momentum in your life for weakness.

Do you see that shift? Do you see, because this is unedited. Can you hear that change? In my voice, it went from the tears to strength and you too can have that. So for you, it may not be over the loss of a beautiful, valuable God given life that. Went to a permanent solution for a temporary problem and serious, serious temporary problems.

And not knowing, not being in the heart, not being in the path, not being a close friend, not knowing what those temporary problems are and the situation and the circumstance not being able to speak on that.

That's all one can say, right. But one very, very smart person in my. That I love very much. And I was sitting beside him as a, as a young, very in, you know, I was very influenced at a very, very young age. And that's my uncle called him uncle boo. My father's brother who had lost cancer when I was going into medical school, uh, lymphoma, you know, he told me we were sitting at a funeral and he said the time to get to know someone.

Is not when their obituary is getting read at the funeral. That's not the time to get to know someone. If you didn't know this about them at their funeral, you don't really need to know it now, as a matter of fact, those words and words like that at a very young age, pretty sure was in the first five years of life, I'm a very visual person.

I can see that, that I was, I was able to deal with death and, and people ask, you know, as soon as I tell them, and in some times I'm very intentional on not mentioning intentionally that I'm an oncologist that I work in cancer because immediately it takes people to this place of sadness and either their own personal story or their story of their loved ones and the dynamic in the room changes.

And so. If people don't know me, I don't want that judge of them knowing or that judgment of them, knowing that I'm an oncologist, because I feel that it takes away an opportunity for me to really get to know that person and see if there's a way I can serve them in some other way. You know, like maybe I can help them with their child that may have some learning difficulties or, you know, Saying water door differently than other people.

See how I say it? Water door people have always laughed or said something about how I say that, you know, or I don't know, something else completely unrelated, right. Or the fact that I'm really good at helping people make money, you know, cuz you're listening to the one particular podcast. So the point is.

The gifts and the ability to have compassion, leadership, ability, innovation, bedside manner, playing, talking, and seeing, and feeling and identifying when someone is hurting is a gift. And. It's also a call to action by higher power to recruit some soldiers in this fight to help. So this version of unedited, while , it's not edited, we don't have any music here for the 1% code podcast.

I hope that you have heard something today that triggers or ignites a fire in you. And my challenge for you is to remember. That you can help yourself. You can help someone else in your life. If you were a physician, if you know a physician in your life, if a physician in your life that's helped you or a family member, reach out to them, call them, give them a card, see how they're doing.

If you have, or know a resource that has helped someone in your life, pass it on, let them know about it, ask them if they need help. You see someone that's struggling. See, if you can help them in some way, recommend a book that's helped you, you know, feel better if you know someone that's going through a divorce.

If you see someone that's struggling, even in a Starbucks line, I mean, like, I need to give Starbucks any recognition, but Hey, I'll give Starbucks some recognition. Target released a, uh, you know, their earnings report that they were struggling. You know, Walmart closed their hours, like for a mom that was busy them closing at 11 o'clock the other night.

I had to bust my booty last night to get outta there, to get two, six packs of pre sliced apples for my son's class today. Cause I got back at a 2:00 AM flight yesterday morning, you know, like we're juggling, right? Even those of us who are really effective and good with our time have to produce. So Walmart even struggles.

My point is, even though these are specific examples is that you can give a helping hand to other people. We can make big impacts by paying attention to the small things, asking for help, giving help, where we can open your eyes, put down your phone, reach out to those people that you think are strong and make a difference.

If you need help, ask for help, normalize asking for help. Use your. Say no, when you really can't do it. If someone comes out and asks you for help and you have no capacity, listen how simple this is. I would love to help you. But I've talked to this friend who has a list of resources. And she said, if I, if somebody comes to me and they can't help you, I can let you call, you know, let me get them on the phone.

I do this all the time. I like three way or three way instant message. And I know the people that are available. Or they're really good at helping people, or they have a list of resources or we make a list of resources in our area. And it's like a group of three of us. And if one of the three of us is busy, because believe me, you can get to capacity.

Hold on a second water break.

People that are busy are busy and you can get to capacity a lot. But at the same time, what are you doing that you don't really care about? And you don't need to do when you say you care about something. Let's let's talk about time poor. Right? A lot of us say we're time poor, it's a lie. We all have the same 24 hours.

Right. What do we do? We spend time on things that we value. So cut out things that you don't value and focus on what you really do value. Okay. But I think you'll get the point. right. Do small things, but do me a favor. I want you to really, really, really, this is my call to action for you. Okay. If you got any value from this or any values of any of the 1% code podcast that I've been doing for almost a year right now, I want you to reach out, even if it's your doctor, even if it's your spouse, your physician, and I want you just to check on them.

See how they're doing. See if they need help. If, if you're in mental health and you have some resources or you have some extra slots on your calendar, or you know that somebody else needs help, or maybe you haven't done any advertising or your schedule, if your schedule's open and you have the gift and ability, and you know how to.

See the warning signs of someone who is in need of help put up a post on social media because we're not trained. Most of us don't know. We don't know what to look for. We don't know how to see who's hurting because I guarantee you, everybody is always shocked. Now I will tell you because I've had a lot of training.

I see a lot of these things, but I don't see all of them. Right. I don't a lot of people don't, but those of you who are trained and you've had a lot of experience, we wanna hear you teach us, do more talks. You wanna come on my podcast, come on my podcast, please message me. We need to know just like they have us teaching CPR, learning CPR.

They've now changed it where we do something like every quarter. Why aren't we doing that with suicide awareness? Right. Education, we should have trained people, like, think about it. We are smart people. We are innovative. There are resources. We know how to market the things that are for monetary reasons.

Why not for our health. So, all right. That is my unedited version. Real and raw. That's it. I hope that you got value from this. I'm Dr. Melva, your board certified radiation oncologist, serial entrepreneur. And again, I love you all. I don't even know which episode this is anymore, and we're gonna wrap it there and we will see you on the next episode of the 1% code podcast.

Thank you so much for listening. I love you guys. And I mean it, bye.
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